{"id":502,"date":"2025-04-06T15:43:30","date_gmt":"2025-04-06T13:43:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/naucseto.cz\/wordpress\/?p=502"},"modified":"2025-04-06T15:47:32","modified_gmt":"2025-04-06T13:47:32","slug":"ctyri-obdobi-manzelstvi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/naucseto.cz\/wordpress\/2025\/04\/06\/ctyri-obdobi-manzelstvi\/","title":{"rendered":"\u010cty\u0159i obdob\u00ed man\u017eelstv\u00ed"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Semin\u00e1\u0159 o man\u017eelstv\u00ed a jeho obdob\u00edch inspirov\u00e1no knihou Garyho Chapmana, kter\u00fd p\u0159irovnal r\u016fzn\u00e1 obdob\u00ed v man\u017eelstv\u00ed ke \u010dty\u0159em ro\u010dn\u00edm obdob\u00edm: <strong>jaru<\/strong>, <strong>l\u00e9tu<\/strong>, <strong>podzimu<\/strong> a <strong>zim\u011b<\/strong>. Tato obdob\u00ed n\u00e1sleduj\u00ed za sebou, ale mohou trvat r\u016fzn\u011b dlouho. Vedli jej man\u017eel\u00e9 Grahmanovi z CB Neratovice.<br>Kl\u00ed\u010dov\u00e9 charakteristiky a dynamiky jednotliv\u00fdch &#8222;ro\u010dn\u00edch obdob\u00ed&#8220; man\u017eelstv\u00ed:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Jaro<\/strong> &#8211; za\u010d\u00e1tek\u00a0man\u017eelstv\u00ed. Obdob\u00ed\u00a0zamilovanosti, kter\u00e9 obvykle trv\u00e1 asi jeden a\u017e dva roky. D\u0159\u00edve se uv\u00e1d\u011blo obdob\u00ed dvou let, ale dnes se zkracuje. Obdob\u00ed, kdy m\u00e1 \u010dlov\u011bk\u00a0r\u016f\u017eov\u00e9 br\u00fdle. V\u0161echno jde samo. Partne\u0159i si pln\u00ed to, co si vid\u00ed na o\u010d\u00edch. Nevid\u00ed se\u00a0<strong>negativn\u00ed str\u00e1nky<\/strong>, ale p\u0159edev\u0161\u00edm to pozitivn\u00ed. Jsou\u00a0<strong>fascinov\u00e1ni<\/strong>\u00a0jeden druh\u00fdm, a to i v rozd\u00edlnostech. I v tomto obdob\u00ed se mohou objevit\u00a0<strong>podr\u00e1\u017ed\u011bn\u00ed<\/strong>\u00a0a &#8222;alergie&#8220; na chov\u00e1n\u00ed druh\u00e9ho. Je pot\u0159eba na vztahu\u00a0<strong>pracovat<\/strong>, aby toto obdob\u00ed trvalo co nejd\u00e9le a vztah rostl a prohluboval se. <br><strong>Emoce<\/strong>\u00a0spojen\u00e9 s jarem: nad\u0161en\u00ed, radost, nad\u011bje.<br><strong>Postoje<\/strong>\u00a0spojen\u00e9 s jarem: o\u010dek\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed, optimismus, vd\u011b\u010dnost, d\u016fv\u011bra<br>V\u00a0<strong>jedn\u00e1n\u00ed\u00a0<\/strong>se objevuje pl\u00e1nov\u00e1n\u00ed, komunikace, hled\u00e1n\u00ed spole\u010dn\u00e9 cesty a \u017e\u00e1dost o pomoc, kdy\u017e je pot\u0159eba.<br><strong>Atmosf\u00e9ra<\/strong>\u00a0je l\u00e1skypln\u00e1, otev\u0159en\u00e1 a pe\u010duj\u00edc\u00ed.<br>Jaro je charakterizov\u00e1no\u00a0<strong>nov\u00fdmi za\u010d\u00e1tky<\/strong>\u00a0a je velmi \u017eiv\u00e9 a n\u011bkdy \u017eiveln\u00e9.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>L\u00e9to<\/strong> &#8211; obdob\u00ed\u00a0stability a pohody. Klidn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed ne\u017e jaro, ale st\u00e1le p\u0159\u00edjemn\u00e9 se &#8222;slun\u00ed\u010dkem&#8220;. Je to \u010das, kdy se\u00a0<strong>skl\u00edzej\u00ed plody<\/strong>\u00a0pr\u00e1ce zasazen\u00e9 na ja\u0159e. Investice do vztahu na ja\u0159e p\u0159in\u00e1\u0161\u00ed &#8222;sladk\u00e1 jabl\u00ed\u010dka&#8220; v l\u00e9t\u011b. Prvotn\u00ed nad\u0161en\u00ed a \u017eivost mohou pominout, ale prohlubuje se\u00a0<strong>pocit vz\u00e1jemn\u00e9ho spojen\u00ed<\/strong>, soun\u00e1le\u017eitosti a radosti ze spole\u010dn\u00e9ho byt\u00ed. I l\u00e9to m\u00e1 sv\u00e1\u00a0<strong>nebezpe\u010d\u00ed<\/strong>, podobn\u011b jako se mohou objevit vosy v tr\u00e1v\u011b a po\u0161t\u00edpaj\u00ed. <strong>Ne\u0159e\u0161en\u00e9 konflikty<\/strong>\u00a0a probl\u00e9my z minulosti se mohou vyno\u0159it jako &#8222;vos\u00ed hn\u00edzdo&#8220; a zp\u016fsobit pot\u00ed\u017ee.<br><strong>Emoce<\/strong>\u00a0spojen\u00e9 s l\u00e9tem: \u0161t\u011bst\u00ed, uspokojen\u00ed, dosa\u017een\u00ed c\u00edl\u016f, bl\u00edzk\u00fd vztah.<br><strong>Postoje<\/strong>\u00a0spojen\u00e9 s l\u00e9tem: rozhodnut\u00ed r\u016fst, pohoda, klid, d\u016fv\u011bra ve vz\u00e1jemnou soun\u00e1le\u017eitost.<br>V\u00a0<strong>jedn\u00e1n\u00ed<\/strong>\u00a0se objevuje pr\u00e1ce na vztahu, konstruktivn\u00ed komunikace, snaha se dohodnout, spole\u010dn\u011b tr\u00e1ven\u00fd \u010das a schopnost \u0159e\u0161it konflikty.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Podzim<\/strong> &#8211; obdob\u00ed, kdy se partne\u0159i dr\u017e\u00ed za ruce, ale\u00a0komunikace v\u00e1zne. Sp\u00ed\u0161e jdou stejn\u00fdm sm\u011brem, ale s\u00a0<strong>jin\u00fdm pohledem<\/strong>. M\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt navenek\u00a0<strong>p\u011bkn\u00fd<\/strong>, podobn\u011b jako barevn\u00e9 list\u00ed na podzimn\u00edm slunci. Uvnit\u0159 vztah\u00a0<strong>ochl\u00e1d\u00e1<\/strong>, miz\u00ed komunikace a \u010dlov\u011bk se zam\u011b\u0159uje na\u00a0zran\u011bn\u00ed\u00a0a nefunk\u010dn\u00ed v\u011bci. Partne\u0159i se mohou c\u00edtit\u00a0<strong>osamocen\u00ed<\/strong>. Navzdory vn\u011bj\u0161\u00edmu dojmu m\u016f\u017ee p\u00e1r proch\u00e1zet\u00a0<strong>hlub\u0161\u00ed kriz\u00ed<\/strong>, kter\u00e1 nen\u00ed vid\u011bt. Objevuje se\u00a0<strong>p\u0159edzv\u011bst zimy<\/strong>, &#8222;mraziv\u00fd v\u00edtr&#8220;. Je\u00a0nezbytn\u00e9 <strong>v\u011bdom\u011b pracovat\u00a0na vztahu<\/strong>, u\u017e to nejde samo. Je to z\u00e1le\u017eitost<strong>\u00a0v\u016fle<\/strong>\u00a0a uv\u011bdom\u011bn\u00ed si pot\u0159eby n\u011bco pro vztah d\u011blat. Pokud se nic ned\u011bl\u00e1, z\u00e1konit\u011b p\u0159ich\u00e1z\u00ed\u00a0<strong>hlubok\u00e1 krize<\/strong>\u00a0&#8211; zima.<br><strong>Emoce<\/strong>\u00a0spojen\u00e9 s podzimem: smutek, odm\u00edtnut\u00ed, \u00fazkost, ztr\u00e1ta odvahy, odpor, nedostatek ocen\u011bn\u00ed.<br><strong>Postoje<\/strong>\u00a0spojen\u00e9 s podzimem: nejistota, obavy, vz\u00e1jemn\u00e9 obvi\u0148ov\u00e1n\u00ed.<br>V\u00a0<strong>jedn\u00e1n\u00ed<\/strong>\u00a0se objevuje zanedb\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed partnera a jeho pot\u0159eb, neochota n\u011bco \u0159e\u0161it.<br><strong>Atmosf\u00e9ra<\/strong>\u00a0za\u010d\u00edn\u00e1 b\u00fdt odcizen\u00e1, partne\u0159i se vzdaluj\u00ed a odpout\u00e1vaj\u00ed, v p\u0159\u00edpad\u011b obvi\u0148ov\u00e1n\u00ed<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Zima<\/strong> &#8211; charakterizuje ji\u00a0<strong>chlad a necitelnost<\/strong>, schopnost si navz\u00e1jem ubl\u00ed\u017eit s pocitem, \u017ee si to ten druh\u00fd zaslou\u017e\u00ed. P\u0159ich\u00e1z\u00ed s\u00a0<strong>ho\u0159kost\u00ed a frustrac\u00ed<\/strong>. Je d\u016fsledkem\u00a0<strong>nedo\u0159e\u0161en\u00fdch konflikt\u016f<\/strong>\u00a0a pot\u00ed\u017e\u00ed, kter\u00e9 se neotev\u0159ely. Man\u017eelstv\u00ed se zd\u00e1\u00a0<strong>hrout\u00ed<\/strong>, partne\u0159i spolu necht\u011bj\u00ed b\u00fdt a nec\u00edt\u00ed se spolu dob\u0159e. Je to obdob\u00ed\u00a0<strong>p\u0159e\u017e\u00edv\u00e1n\u00ed<\/strong>, nikoliv u\u017e\u00edv\u00e1n\u00ed si vztahu. Pokud se zimy p\u00e1r dostane, m\u016f\u017ee p\u0159ij\u00edt jaro nebo jin\u00e9 obdob\u00ed. Dlouhodob\u00e9 setrv\u00e1n\u00ed v zim\u011b vede k\u00a0<strong>rozpadu<\/strong>\u00a0man\u017eelstv\u00ed. I v t\u011b\u017ek\u00e9 zim\u011b je d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 dr\u017eet se\u00a0<strong>n\u011bkter\u00fdch pravidel<\/strong>\u00a0(nap\u0159. pravideln\u00e9 rozhovory). P\u0159ekon\u00e1n\u00ed krize m\u016f\u017ee v\u00e9st k\u00a0<strong>nov\u00e9 investici<\/strong>\u00a0do vztahu a jeho obnov\u011b. Ten, kdo projde n\u011b\u010d\u00edm t\u011b\u017ek\u00fdm v man\u017eelstv\u00ed, m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt schopen\u00a0pomoci\u00a0druh\u00fdm v podobn\u00e9 situaci.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>D\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 je si uv\u011bdomit, \u017ee ka\u017ed\u00fd man\u017eelsk\u00fd p\u00e1r z\u00e1konit\u011b n\u011bkdy dojde do t\u011b\u017ek\u00e9ho obdob\u00ed. V\u011bdom\u00ed, \u017ee to k vztah\u016fm pat\u0159\u00ed, d\u00e1v\u00e1 nad\u011bji, \u017ee po t\u011b\u017ek\u00e9m obdob\u00ed m\u016f\u017ee p\u0159ij\u00edt oteplen\u00ed a dokonce\u00a0nov\u00e1 zamilovanost\u00a0po zvl\u00e1dnut\u00ed t\u011b\u017ek\u00fdch v\u011bc\u00ed.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Semin\u00e1\u0159 o man\u017eelstv\u00ed a jeho obdob\u00edch inspirov\u00e1no knihou Garyho Chapmana, kter\u00fd p\u0159irovnal r\u016fzn\u00e1 obdob\u00ed v man\u017eelstv\u00ed ke \u010dty\u0159em ro\u010dn\u00edm obdob\u00edm: jaru, l\u00e9tu, podzimu a zim\u011b. 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